Busy Weekend

I am sitting on the couch next to Lockit and we are both struggling to stay awake.

Lockit arrived in Glasgow on Thursday afternoon and came up to the Dungeon to meet me.  We headed home about 4 and went out for something to eat.  After a quiet night in we were ready for yesterday.

Full day in the Dungeon, Lockit visiting family.  Then it was time to get ready for club.  As we were both wilting by then Lockit suggested we book a hotel room for the night and save the hours drive home and then back in the morning.  Have to say that was his best idea yet.

Club was quiet but fun, I was asked to show a young couple a bit about flogging, goodness I had forgotten how awful it is to be a newbie lol.  Thinking you are going to hit one place and actually hitting somewhere completely different.

Eventually just after 2am we managed to leave club and make our way to the hotel.  After a couple of drinks there it was time to sleep, barely wakening in time to get down to breakfast.  It was a fabulous breakfast by the way.

Dungeon again whilst Lockit visited family then after 3pm  we headed home.  Dinner was of the throw in the oven variety – although we do have the most fabulous apple pie with ice cream for later.

We are now both sitting on the couch just waiting for it to be bedtime lol.  Oh how the fetish life can exhaust you 😉

Time for apple pie I think Lockit  – your turn to make tea x

Learning By Doing

It seems so long since I posted here, I barely know what to post.  Things have changed so much from when I first started writing this blog.  A fresh faced newbie who was learning by doing.

Looking back on those original posts I remember them fondly as they were the beginning of this fantastic new life I now lead. A life that has changed so much in the few short years I have been here.

It didn’t take long for me to realise that this new world was definitely for me.  From online Keyholder to attending my first munch, then my first club, I revelled in this world of fetish and kink.  Playing with anyone willing to let me spank/paddle/flog them, again learning by doing.

For those of you out there still not quite sure if this is for you, I would say give it a try.  It is great to be able to read and chat about your fantasies with people you meet online, however taking that next step can make a whole world of difference.

Local munches are a great place to meet people, most can be found on the site “Fetlife”.  Normally held in vanilla venues they are basically a load of likeminded people meeting for a drink or coffee.  I think in my visits we have been a meet up group, book club, camera club etc when asked by bar staff or such.

Once you have taken that step just imagine how fabulous it would be if you could actually fulfil your fetish fantasy.  Somewhere you could wear that PVC/latex outfit and have people admire you and ask where you found it.  A place for all different types of BDSM practicioners to get together, practice, discuss and generally have a great time.  That’s what clubs are for, also dungeon hire.

Learning by doing is also very important in male chastity, no point in looking for a keyholder if you are not able to lock for any more than a couple of hours.  Practice first, make sure you are comfortable and can wear for a couple of days at least.  Then at least you will be able to offer something to a prospective Mistress.

The BDSM Shopping List

Do you have a BDSM shopping list?

That list of hard limits that you start off, those things that you don’t want.

Why not have a look at it, is it actually a list of hard limits or has it turned into a list of wants?

So many I have seen start off with the good intention of making a list for their partner of what they feel they really do not want to have as part of their dynamic.  Then for some reason this list seems to change part way through from what you don’t want into what you do want.

So let’s look at this for a moment from my point of view as a female.

As a couple we agree we want to get more involved in the BDSM scene, however to make sure we both enjoy it we agree that we must let each other know the hard limits that we have.

So it starts off with the usual suspects, the popular scat play, needle play, blood play, then it starts to deviate slightly.  You put down cuckolding, but quantify it with – I’d like to try it once but not as a lifestyle choice.  Then you add chastity but quantify it with – only when not at work or doing sports.

These are not hard limits you are putting down, these are things you want to do but only in the situation that you have stated.   This is a shopping list of what you want from your BDSM experience.

Please when trying to state hard limits keep it to those things you are not wanting to try under any circumstances.  This gives a base line for what is not going to be happening in your BDSM journey.  Once you have these then you are in the perfect place to start exploring what you do want to do.

It is also most off putting for a partner who is probably only just beginning their journey to be given a BDSM shopping list of what you want, no discussion, no agreement just this is what you want.  For many partners this would end the discussion before it began, this is a joint venture, a joint journey, make sure you don’t make the mistake of forgetting to ask what your partner desires before stating your wants.

Chastity, Submission and Shopping

Here at MJKH things have been progressing apace, especially in regard to Chastity, Submission and Shopping.  I thought it would be an idea to let you know what has been going on.

Male chastity is of course my first love and I still take great satisfaction in helping you guys build on your initial desires to be locked.  Yes, it can take time and dedication to go from fantasising to actually locking for weeks at a time but with some dedication and effort it can be done.

Submission is what happens when I have a session at the Glasgow Dungeon.  When someone comes to session with me, they have already decided that they are going to submit to me within certain parameters.  There is always a discussion before the session starts to make sure that we both know what we are looking to get out of the session.  Then the submission begins and we make those fantasies become reality as much as we can.

Shopping is my newest joy.  What better way to enjoy the world of MJKH than to have my own sexy store where all you lovely visitors can purchase a wide variety of sexy playthings.  Not from some nameless company but from Mistress Jules.  I have outsourced the delivery etc of course but keep your eye out for special Mistress Jules discounts for forum members and those who have ordered through my professional services site.  The layout of the store is at the early stages and shall be improved very shortly, until then why not have a look around and see if there is anything that catches your eye?

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Chastity submission and shopping, three things that make Mistress Jules very happy, I hope you enjoy them to and continue to visit to keep up with the goings on in MJKH world.

Club Night Fun

Last night was a great night for @Lockit and I, we attended our favourite fetish club in Glasgow.  It is such a great thing to be able to go meet up with like minded people and enjoy their company for a few hours.

There were people from my local munch there along with some visitors from Leeds and some came down from Aberdeen for a visit.  It was a busy night but oh it was a fun night.

Lockit of course was locked, it is part of the rules, if I am at the fetish club with or without him, he must be locked whilst I am there.  This causes him some exquisite torture if I decide I am going to play with him when he is there.

Obviously as part owner of the dungeon, we don’t have to play at club so sometimes when it is busy we stay away from the equipment to allow people who can’t attend very often the full fun of the play areas.  Every so often we do get the chance to play on a club night which has such a charged atmosphere it takes things to a whole different level.  Last night was one of those nights.

We managed to use my favourite dark room and the St Andrews cross.  I had @Lockit so tightly bound that he was almost on tiptoe.  As it had been some time since we had played to this level I was very generous and started off gently with soft leather floggers.  Once his skin was pink and warm, then I got to play with my more serious toys.

Thong flogger, single tail, adders tongue and dragon tail were all utilised to great effect and by the end of our little play my darling @Lockit was suitably submissive and grateful for his Mistresses attentions.

How I love club night.

Fetish Club Meetings

I was at the fetish club I frequent in Glasgow last night with Lockit, then to my great surprise I met up with our new member Submissive Barry.  It was such a surprise when he introduced himself, as we all know, it is not often that you get to meet people from the net in real life.

You all know that I attend that club, Lockit comes with me when he can and AC helps out on the bar most nights, it was really nice to meet another member.

I do hope you had a good time Barry and no doubt we shall catch up at another event in the future.

Personal Chastity Lockdown In Glasgow

Now I am here at Glasgow Dungeon for full days at a time, I can take the time to explore and play with new toys.

So if there is something you would like to see or for me to take a photograph of whilst I am here, why not let me know.  You can always post in the comments or come onto the forum and let me know there.

We have cages, crosses, suspension rigs with slings, so many canes, whips etc.  We also have electrics, toys for varying kinds of play.  Maybe you would prefer to see the rooms as a whole.

Remember you can hire the rooms to use yourself or with a partner and try out some of the equipment yourselves.  Why not have a look and let me know what you think.

Imagine my locked up boys coming to visit me in here, personal lock ups where you walk away locked and I have the keys.  Doesn’t that sound like fun?

More Chastity, Fetish and Domination

Tomorrow is the first day of my new world.  I have taken the plunge and am going to be working at Glasgow Dungeon 3 days a week now.

I cannot tell you how excited I am that I am going to be able to enjoy myself on a daily basis having fun with all you lovely guys.  I shall be using Adultwork as well to enable me to chat to you on the phone and if you are really lucky I may even do some camming.

I am looking forward to being able to speak to more of you on a more regular basis and also extend the availability of the Glasgow Dungeon both for sessions and for room hire.

This is going to be so much fun, watch this space for updates as to how my new world filled with even more chastity, fetish and domination progresses.

Introducing a Partner to Forums

As can happen in any arena where there are a variety of options there will be some differing opinions.  Look at the Olympics, it’s all sport but not everyone enjoys every event.

Thus it is with sexual fantasies, there is such a variety available that not everyone on a forum will be interested in everything being discussed.

Yes, this forum has some areas I tend not to visit, they are not my kink.  There will be others out there who do not enjoy my penchant for whips and floggers.  My kink is not their kink but that is ok.

Where I think many females lose out on the enjoyment of a forum is the way they are introduced to it.  Their partners forget that they have been here some time and are used to the different kinks that make a site into what it is.

Unfortunately, for someone who has only recently been introduced to kink, this could quite easily be a step too far.  Imagine if you will, your lovely lady, up until now relatively vanilla, maybe done some spanking or read 50 shades and agreed to go a bit further.  To then introduce her to a site which has such a variety of kinksters as members along with all their associated fetishes is I think a step too far without some warning.

So many sites are worldwide and welcoming to all, this needs to be explained to wives and girlfriends before introducing them if they are new to the scene. If you don’t do that you only have yourself to blame for any negative reaction to things they are not expecting.

Many guys visit a site for months before introducing partners, you cannot expect a partner to be on the same wavelength if you are only just introducing them to this world.

 

Back In To Chastity

After a week of familial time, at 12 noon tomorrow, Lockit and I are finally on our own for the next 5 days.

Already he has been warned that I expect him to bathe shave and lock as soon as we return home after dropping off the family at the railway station.  One of the reasons I am so eager is that I had a manicure today and my nails are a beautiful shade of scarlet.  I intend taking some lovely photographs of me helping get all locked up snug and tight.

Then if he is really lucky I may take him lingerie shopping for me whilst he is locked, that sounds like fun to me, what do you think?

Watch this space to follow our fun times as we finally have some time alone together.