In an earlier conversation with another Mistress it was remarked that a sub had a very big ego. That led us to thinking and eventually questioning, what is a sub?
We came to the decision that it is a very personal perception and in a couple what one saw as being submissive another could see as being weak.
For example, Lockit is not a stereotypical submissive, in fact if you met us in real life you probably wouldn’t see him as submissive at all. He is a macho manly man wide shouldered and very protective of me as he goes about his daily life. Your first impression would probably be that he was a gentleman. Lockit is however submissive to me and makes great efforts to see that my wants and desires are met. Sometimes before I even ask or require something. I am happy with that.
My fellow Mistress sees a submissive as someone who is much more dependent on their Mistress. Looking for permissions frequently and more bound by obligations. Their daily life coming second to the desires and wishes of their Mistress. She is happy with being that Mistress.
Neither of us is wrong in our definition, as a submissive should be able to serve the Dominant in the manner best suited to both of them.
Lockit and I work as a team, we complement each other, not least because I am not exactly practical and very accident prone. He on the other hand fixes things and makes sure that my ideas are tempered with reality as he tries to keep me safe.
My fellow Mistress enjoys a more obvious show of submission in all things, that is what makes her happy. Her submissive is very happy to have someone instruct his life in detail.
It begs the question, what does submissive mean to you?